Since many ladies have come to me in confidence about becoming a dancer and stripping, I figure I will put this out there for them. One of the most important factors in dancing is safety. So many men fail to realize that we sell a fantasy. Doing so attracts all types of unwanted attention. Your job is not over until you are in your home safe!! Until then, consider yourself still, “on the clock.”
One of the best ways to survive is to be scared. Anything that makes you brave will make you more likely to walk into a dangerous situation. If you have a gun in your purse you might be more likely to take a shortcut home, or take a ride with a man you don't know. If you're scared you're careful, if you're careful you don't get into trouble. If you are a featured dancer, have a very public presence (website or modeling), or have had problems with a stalker, a gun may be something you want to consider purchasing. I live in NY and I will get my gun license before my drivers license any day. You need to be trained in it's use and practice with it at a firing range at least once every few months. Don't carry one unless you comfortable with the idea of killing someone. That's what guns are for, you're not going to be shooting knives out of anyone's hands, you're going to be trying to make a hole in the center of their torso. If you have small hands like me you can have a gunsmith machine a trigger guard that will comfortable fit your finger but too small for the finger of a grown man.
I never wish to blame the victim but every single girl I know without exception who has ever gotten into trouble was doing something most women would consider risky or just plain stupid!! Don't take chances- the stakes are too high.
As a dancer leaving the club after work is the time when you are most vulnerable. I have only gotten scared more than once at work.. On most occasions it was when an overly enthusiastic customer decided to wait for me outside the club after closing. On those occasions the men were just confused about the nature of what a dancer does and were dealt with by security. This being said transportation is a critical safety issue that you really have to think about. Going to work is not a problem- they can't really see where you are coming from. Leaving is when you have to be most alert. Public transportation is out of the question, it's too easy to be followed and is rarely safe at the hours you'll be riding. I'd suggest sharing a cab with one of the other girls. If you decide to drive, make very sure that your car is reliable, last thing you need is a break down on an empty road at 3AM. TIP-Make sure when you register you car you do it to another address (friend, parent, etc.). That way if someone takes down your license plate number he can't find out your home address.
For obvious reasons never ever give any personal info to anyone who knows you as a dancer- including other dancers. There are dancers and bouncers who will give the information to customers for money or as a favor. There is no reason anyone needs to know anything but your stage name. Don't tell them where you live or what school you go to no matter how trust worthy they seem. Once that information is out it's very difficult to put back in the box.
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